Life is
short. There’s no two ways around
that. Sure, there are things that live
shorter lives than we do, and conversely there are creatures that live longer. But all in all? Life is short. And every moment of it is precious.
The other
day I got a chance to go and visit John’s Papa Tom in the care facility before
he was taken back to the hospital. I
couldn’t tell you if he was happy to see me, but I was glad to see him. I got a chance to tell him that I love him,
listen to him chat with his daughters about things that were important to him,
and see that he was doing the best that he could. As we were walking out, John’s mom was
talking to Aunt Mary about what they’d been doing with him during physical
therapy, and one of the things she mentioned stuck with me:
Smell the
roses—blow out the candle.
It was part
of a breathing exercise that, at the time, rather amused me, but as I thought
about it more, I realized that it had significance apart from its amusement
value. Sure, it was meant to induce
breathing in and breathing out, but those images—the thoughts provoked by those
words, are laden with importance that far outweigh their intended purpose.
We talk
about taking time to smell the roses—an idea that means we should slow down and
enjoy the little things that are going on all around us. It’s a phrase that evokes a beautiful picture
of roses, gardens, summer suns, autumn skies—the whole gamut of life buzzing
around us that created a perfect moment.
Breathing in all that life is important; it makes us who we are and
shapes who we are going to become.
And then
there is the idea of blowing out the candle—of marking the end of something and
the beginning of something new. We blow
out the candles when we’re ready to be done with something or when we’re making
a wish on a birthday cake. Blowing out
that candle can leave us in the dark, but it leaves us open to discovering
something new.
Just as that
image is meant to make us think of breathing out, it reminds us of those
birthday cakes and days when the power went out, or that moment when we decided
that we were done with that oh-so-needed relaxing bath. It marks the end of something, but even so,
it marks a new beginning, too. It allows
us to let go of the past and be ready to take in that next breath.
After binge
watching all of the Gilmore girls, I
realized how much fear can play a role in our lives, too—how easy it is to forget
to breathe and reflect on who we are and where we’re going. And how difficult it can be to confront that
fear of the next breath—change. We get
comfortable in a rut, and inertia is a difficult task master to put off.
But life is
too short to be afraid of changes. We
need to smell the roses AND blow out the candles—otherwise we’re not really
living at all. We’re just passing the
moments by and hoping the darkness will never find us. We’re holding our breath until we turn blue
and die.
So don’t be
afraid of breathing in and breathing out—of smelling the roses and blowing out
the candle—of being open to changes.
That, after
all, is what life is all about.
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